Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood

Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood

Carlos Andrés Gómez / Mar 30, 2020

Man Up Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood Inspired by the award winning poet and actor s acclaimed one man play a powerful coming of age memoir that redefines masculinity for the twenty first century male Award winning poet actor and write

  • Title: Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood
  • Author: Carlos Andrés Gómez
  • ISBN: 9781592407781
  • Page: 352
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Inspired by the award winning poet and actor s acclaimed one man play, a powerful coming of age memoir that redefines masculinity for the twenty first century male.Award winning poet, actor, and writer Carlos Andr s G mez is a supremely gifted storyteller with a captivating voice whose power resonates equally on the live stage and on the page In one of his most moving spoInspired by the award winning poet and actor s acclaimed one man play, a powerful coming of age memoir that redefines masculinity for the twenty first century male.Award winning poet, actor, and writer Carlos Andr s G mez is a supremely gifted storyteller with a captivating voice whose power resonates equally on the live stage and on the page In one of his most moving spoken word poems, G mez recounts a confrontation he once had after accidentally bumping into another man at a club Just as they were about to fight, G mez experienced an unexplainable surge of emotion that made his eyes well up with tears Everyone at the scene jumped back, as if crying, or showing vulnerability, was the most insane thing that G mez could possibly have done.Like many men in our society, G mez grew up believing that he had to be ready to fight at all times, treat women as objects, and close off his emotional self It wasn t until he discovered acting that he began to see the true cost of squelching one s emotions and how aggression dominates everything that young males are taught.Statistics on graduation rates, employment, and teen and young adult suicide make it clear that the young males in our society are at a crisis point, but G mez seeks to reverse these ominous trends by sharing the lessons that he has learned Like Hill Harper s Letters to a Young Brother, Man Up will be an agent for positive change, galvanizing men but also mothers, girlfriends, wives, and sisters to rethink and redefine the way all men interact with women, deal with violence, handle fear, and express emotion.

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      • Carlos Andrés Gómez

        Hailed as a truth telling visionary by Brass Magazine and a lyrical prophet by the Caymanian Compass, CARLOS ANDR S G MEZ has been dubbed a leading voice at the forefront of the oral poetry movement The Punch A former social worker in Harlem and the south Bronx and public school teacher in Philadelphia and Manhattan, G mez has performed at over 200 colleges and universities and toured across North America, Europe, the Caribbean, and Africa Nominated for the Pushcart Prize and named Artist of the Year at the 2009 Promoting Outstanding Writers Awards, he is a two time International Poetry Slam Champion 2006, 2010 and co stars in Spike Lee s 1 movie INSIDE MAN Universal Pictures with Denzel Washington, Jodie Foster, and Clive Owen G mez appears on the 6th season of HBO s RUSSELL SIMMONS PRESENTS DEF POETRY voted Favorite Poet of his episode by viewers Most recently, he showcased his talent in MTV s first ever poetry slam alongside hip hop luminary Talib Kweli.G MEZ is the star of the Emmy Award winning Respect Yourself television spots by At Large Films and appears on the third season of the popular Showtime series The L Word He is a two time National Poetry Slam Finalist once as a member of the renowned Nuyorican Poets Caf s Slam Team that finished 2nd, and later with the NYC louderARTS Slam Team that finished 3rd in the U.S He s represented the United States at the Poetry Africa International Festival in Durban, South Africa and been a special guest performer at the MACY s Passport Fashion Show He s collaborated with Tony Award winning tap dance legend Savion Glover on Broadway In the past year, he was Guest of Honor at the Berlin International Literature Festival, headlined Central Park SummerStage, and opened the Campus Progress National Conference in Washington, D.C.Over the past decade, G mez has shared the stage with a diverse range of celebrated artists and icons, including Wyclef Jean, MC Lyte, Yusef Komunyakaa, Rosie P rez, Pete Rock, Ntozake Shange, Toots and The Maytals, Immortal Technique, Reel Big Fish, Suzanne Vega, Saul Williams, Javier Col n and Mos Def.


    1. Carlos Andres Gomez has clearly had some interesting experiences that could have been compiled into an informative and useful narrative and I'm pretty sure that's what he was trying to do with Man Up. Unfortunately, it wasn't successful for me.Mr. Gomez spends much of the book detailing the ways in which he used to be an asshole, used to be caught up in gender roles, and used to be completely self-centered. It seems he's trying to tell you where he came from and share the erroneous worldviews he [...]

    2. You know that old phrase "don't meet your heroes." Well, last night I met one of my heroes, and as I was walking to my car afterward I thought that if meeting your heroes is a disappointment, perhaps you're making heroes out of the wrong people? When your heroes are people who make careers out of standing up against injustice how can you go wrong, really?It's impossible, after reading Man Up to see Carlos Andrés Gómez as anything more than human. But what an incredible, insightful, earth-chang [...]

    3. A very entertaining memoir! Despite the title, that is really what this book was, in my opinion. As a woman, I've been pretty curious about the "male perspective." I knew it had to be more than the stereotypical image of a man that society paints. Anyway, in between is a usually emotional poem that that sets the mood for the next chapter. This novel is written in first person and details the different chapters in Gomez's life.I really liked how honest Gomez was. He didn't gloss over his personal [...]

    4. I picked this up last year at the NCTE convention. It looked like something the boys in my class could be interested in. I liked how he breaks down gender norms in society using himself and those around him as examples. Some may say it is a memoir/biography, but it is not linear in any way. It goes more by topics and with that there is some repetition, but not too much. It is confusing at times because I would try to remember what else was going on when he would talk about a particular topic. An [...]

    5. The first time I even heard Carlos's name was when I heard a girl perform one of his poems for school. The poem, What is Genocide, is in the book. A little while later I looked him up on YouTube and his performance was shocking in the good way. How he's so passionate and confident, in one of his performances I swear he was close to tears. When you hear his poems it's almost, I think unsettling would be a good word. Mainly because he shines a light on things that some people prefer not to look ou [...]

    6. I wanted to like Mr. Gomez. I wanted to read this and gain some insight about what it is like for men to struggle with the shifting view and definition of masculinity, to learn about how they negotiate the liminal spaces of sexuality and power and to maybe get a sense of a process, or questions to ask that could possibly assist the men in my life who happen to be struggling with the same experience. That isn't what I got. Instead, I got a very surface level recollection of the challenges a sensi [...]

    7. I just saw Gomez at Busboys and Poets on Wed. He was touring with this book, telling stories from it, performing a few related poems (he's a spoken work/slam poet). I can't wait to read it. It gave me great hope to hear "regular folks" using phrases like "counter-narrative" and "deconstructing gender" correctly and for bettering of their lives!!He's honest, and funny, and totally serious. Most of the book is about where he fails, where he finds new places to grow. We need more of that view of fa [...]

    8. Inspirational, insightful, intense, and imperative.Even as a female, Man Up, was a profound experience. It gave a deep look into the social expectations and consequences as well as the truth behind what it means to "be a man." Carlos' experiences gave such meaning and insight into how destructive the strict gender roles can have on both men and women.Working as an advocate for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, this book gives an imperative look into the other side of the story. As [...]

    9. This book was at times so very depressing. When he was writing about sex and relationships, I saw some of my friends in him. When he was writing about pride being in the way of allowing yourself to be vulnerable and reach out for help, it not only reminded me of some of the men in my life, but it also painfully reminded me of myself. What does that say about gender? Although reading this book helped me reach a better understanding of what many men go through in terms of identity formation and re [...]

    10. Important for all boys, men, women, mothers of boys, to read. Why is there such a narrow band of acceptable emotions for boys/men? How does that hinder them in life? How does this contribute to patriarchy and misogyny? More memoir and personal anecdotes than straight up non-fiction and study after study, I found my heart breaking for the kid Gomez was, and respecting the man he has become. I loved the included poems/spoken word pieces he included and may check them out on YouTube.Very well-writt [...]

    11. Written about the crisis of masculinity and how we are raised to be detached and stoic in lieu of authentic and connected. It was a beautiful book. Gomez rips himself open to share and authentically explore his evolution into authentic manhood. It took me years to realize I could define for myself what it meant to be a man. Gomez has given shape and a voice to what I've struggled with for years. A beautiful writer and a brutally honest self evaluation. Just thought I'd share.

    12. this was a great book. Carlos is brutally honest about his experiences and feelings about tons of topics, not just what it means to be a man but many others. this would be a fantastically relatable book for students at college.

    13. Powerful and engaging. Anyone who likes his poetry will like this. Those who want to hear the story of a brave person redefining societies limited view of manhood will want to read this.

    14. Honest look at his life as a Hispanic male. Interesting viewpoints about what it means to be a man and how society interprets male behavior. I enjoyed his stories and especially his poems.

    15. This memoir moved me deeply. Gomez is an honest and observant writer, and he turns his gaze unflinchingly on himself, his shortcomings, his strengths, and his own efforts to "man up" in a society that has no idea what that means. I am grateful for his vulnerability and his perspective. For readers like me who are interested in contemporary coming-of-age stories, I can't recommend this one highly enough.

    16. One of the significant ways in which our society has changed within the last twenty odd years or so is our conceptualization of gender roles. How individuals of a given identified sex or gender ought to behave, what their goals should be, what they should value, are all part and parcel of the “box of expectations” that are deemed as inappropriate or appropriate. Decades back, a father being sensitive and affectionate to his son would have been frowned upon. Young boys wanting to do something [...]

    17. Reading "Man Up: Reimainging Modern Manhood" has been a transformative and introspective experience for me personally even though it was the story of another man's life. Carlos Andrés Gómez made me think critically about masculinity in the 21st century and I also appreciated Carlos's capacity to consider the intersection of racial identity and gender. In particular, it made me think about how both racism and masculinity work together to dehumanize and devalue men of color in society. The poems [...]

    18. Carlos Andrés Gómez wants men to stop acting like Superman.In his memoir, Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood (Gotham), the spoken word poet uses his own personal experiences to show how men should be open to expressing their personal emotions, including crying and asking for help and forgiveness. As he writes:“I was taught to wipe my tears and steady my expression as a kid. Don’t talk about what’s rumbling inside of your chest. Stay stoic and quiet. It’s part of the unspoken m [...]

    19. I received this book to read for my work on the Equity and Justice committee at my school. It is certainly important to talk about the issues of men, male identity, men of color, etc. As with women, if men grow up learning to feel more comfortable in their bodies, their minds, more "themselves," if men can access their humanity, the whole world can only benefit.I have to say I struggled a bit with this book. While the full title is "Man Up, Reimagining Modern Manhood," it's actually mostly a mem [...]

    20. I was a bit confused by this book. At first, it simply seemed like it would be a book detailing how men are nowadays, why this is, what influences it, and how to "man up" beyond being the tough jock who needs to solve everything with his fists. But, instead it was, in material, more like a memoir: Carlos talks about his story and occasionally tries to apply it to all men- all the ridiculous code words- "alright dude, catch you later man" that they use constantly in conversations as walls and and [...]

    21. I feel a lot of different ways about this book. It's interesting and it's fast, and I'd generally recommend it. Some thoughts:I'm not a dude, so I am not his target audience. I don't have any patience for dudes who think ladies owe them blowjobs and they don't owe those nice ladies anything in return. I understand he's pretty clear that he fucked up like that for a lot of years, but if you're in the midst of some serious misandry, you're not going to have the patience for a couple chapters where [...]

    22. This book is not meant to have all of the answers and it doesn't need to. What it does is tell one man's journey of grappling with the confines of masculinity. With a candidness and vulnerability, Gómez takes us through his ups and downs, his victories and his mistakes. This is a real journey -- one that isn't claiming to be pretty or simple but raw and complex. Not being the best version of oneself is something we can all relate to and Gómez offers up his story and missteps for us to examine [...]

    23. I really wanted to like this book. After the first couple of chapters, I was really enjoying the message and sentiment, and then it went downhill. I'll embarrassingly admit I abandoned the book in the second to last chapter. I couldn't do it. I wanted to throw it out the window. The message and anecdotes become repetitive and whiny. Some experiences are unnecessarily repeated which lead me to believe this was a problem with the editor?? Things seem a little all over the place which was frustrati [...]

    24. I met Carlos Andres Gomez in person at a women's conference at my university and he is such a beautiful person. I absolutely love his stand up poetry and this book was a great book written for men in a manner that I had never seen before. It helps to break the standards are put on men and talks about his work with male inmates and what he found while working there. I would highly suggest this book no matter what gender you are. It gives great insight into what struggles men go through and why fe [...]

    25. This is not the self-help book I thought it was. It's mostly a memoir of Gomez's journey, and he does share some of his realizations of why we, as men, behave the way we do, but there's very little in the way of teaching other men how to change their behaviors. I enjoyed most of his stories and his poetry, but I wish there had been more "here's how I made my journey; here's what you need to do."One other thing - Carlos uses a lot of cussing, and his chapters on how men use women sexually are pre [...]

    26. I really enjoyed this book but at times hated the author for his actions when he was younger. Gomez looks honestly at his life, his actions, and the consequences (which is one of the things I loved about this book). He doesn't hold back on what he did or how it affected him and others and he tries to show readers how to change. While I think many people can learn from and relate to this book, you have to be in the right point in your life (very much a case of going in one ear and out the other). [...]

    27. I picked this book up on a whim. I had no idea what I was getting into. Holy crap, this guy's life is hectic! But that's what I love about it.! He lived in so many places and had so many internal and external adventures. I moved around a lot and I don't have any stores remotely as interesting as his. The stories are fun and engaging, with plenty of touching moments that are icing on the cake. This book further proves my library rocks!

    28. A great read about forgiveness, emotional expression/maturity, and growing as a human being in a world that oftentimes presents many barriers preventing that growth. While the book consisted of all personal stories of Carlos' childhood/adolescence/young adulthood, he bravely and brilliantly connects his experience with life lessons that we can all learn from and take to heart in order to continue to grow into the best people we can possibly be.

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